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09 July 2011 @ 11:50 am
Week #3: The Guessing Game  
Despite my previous post, I eventually watched Transformers 3 with my parents. Okay, I'll admit it. The movie's actually great. Shia Labeouf <3
All body movements have "meaning potential".

I'm not really sure why, but for some reason, this statement really struck me. I guess it has something to do with the fact that one of language's powerful aspects could be contextualized in such an effective way with just a string of six words. Wow. Believe it or not, I found myself nodding in affirmation when I first read the said sentence. It's already common knowledge that language is indeed a powerful tool: we use it to convey messages and express what we feel. But, what if, this very same useful tool also has the ability to give away what we do not intend to show, and deliver what we do not really mean? 
A classic example is someone crushing on another. Though we do not really intend to show it, our body language unfortunately fails us most of the time. We become extra-clumsy, our bodies become rigid, and we can't quite decide on our facial expressions whenever we're in that person's presence. Very grade school-ish, right? But apparently, these things happen without us even noticing, without us even consenting. 
Let's face it. It's also natural for us to over-think, especially when it comes to matters related to someone  we are interested in. There's a great tendency to decipher the person's actions, like everything's supposed to mean something. A simple smile, a nod or a quick glance at our direction make us feel all giddy inside. This scenario is very prevalent in movies because it really happens in real life. After much analyzation and thorough inspection, we come up with the ultimate assumption: I think he/she likes me back. Maybe yes, maybe no
Since body language is an integral part of our everyday communication with others, we just have to accept its flaws and the consequences these may bring. We have to keep in mind that as sensitive humans, we are responsible for our actions and behavior. Intentional or not, we must refrain from doing things that could mislead the people around us, which may give rise to conflicts and complications. Who wants to be stuck in awkward and tight situations, anyway?
But then again, a little mystery won't hurt, right? Decoding or interpreting another person's body language every now and then adds thrill to a rather monotonous day. We may not be professionals in psychology or other technical fields, but understanding how others behave is one of the interesting ways one could learn about another.
 Language, you fascinate me. 
polarpandabearpolarpandabear on July 10th, 2011 04:17 am (UTC)
FLIRT!!!! Etchos!

Sometimes we really do overthink when we like someone just like in my case. teehee. We really think that every actions means something. Every statement if his towards you has a meaning or you feel happy after talking to him. <3<3<3

Cansa Ferisse! Go FLIRT! <3
grehongrehon on July 10th, 2011 06:31 am (UTC)
So true Ferisse! :) It made me reminisce on the occasions that that same event and emotions happened to me. Body language is indeed a mystery but in a very good way because if we can predict accurately all the assumptions we make then life would be so predictable and would have no excitement. Life if i could say would really suck so bad. That kind of life I can't live with! :)
merced_adasamerced_adasa on July 11th, 2011 07:16 am (UTC)
"But, what if, this very same useful tool also has the ability to give away what we do not intend to show, and deliver what we do not really mean?"

I loooove this line!!! :) Helpful as they may be, sometimes it just plain sucks when people can easily read our actions and figure our the feelings we try so hard to conceal. Although I think subconsciously we do certain actions on purpose to receive a certain kind of attention from certain people. For example, being sad is something we don't want to admit so we use our actions instead to say we're sad without having to sound so vulnerable and pitiful.

and lastly, "Intentional or not, we must refrain from doing things that could mislead the people around us, which may give rise to conflicts and complications." I think you know what I'm gonna say/SING about this. :) HAHHAHAHA.
Lia FelicianoLia Feliciano on July 12th, 2011 01:44 am (UTC)
I agree with what you said about us not being able to control our body language when we're with someone we like and how we overanalyze their actions (ahihihi). Personally, I've been through this a lot (HAHA TMI). AND! Your post reminded me of Flipped :) It's an adorable movie showing two sides of a story of two adolescents who constantly analyze each other's actions but end up being more than friends anyway (I'm pretty sure you've seen it too!) :") (I was just watching this again last night! Tihee, timely!)
Ian CalimbahinIan Calimbahin on July 12th, 2011 12:56 pm (UTC)
Comments from Ian Calimbahin
Londi londi. Loljk.

NICE ENTRY! Reading your blog made me realize that I might have acted so strange in front of my crushES (yes, more than one) when I was in grade school and high school. Haha. I do agree that our body language tells something about us and about others as well. We also tend to interpret even the simplest gestures especially when we are interested with a particular person.

NICE ONE FERISSE! Keep it A. Keep it up! :)
Beaver FloresBeaver Flores on July 16th, 2011 12:50 am (UTC)
I like this entry for two reasons:

1. It clearly illustrates how nonverbal communication influences our social behavior.

2. We may have somehow discussed nonverbal communication in terms of how messages are delivered, but in this article, you focus on how it's RECEIVED. There is as much depth of discussion in the INTERPRETATION and DECODING of nonverbal messages as there is in their delivery. :)

Good work, Ferisse!